Body image. What’s the big deal?
Have you ever scrolled through your Instagram feed and thought “I wish I looked like her?!” If your answer is yes then you’re not alone. I do it ALL the time! And I’m sure a lot of you do…
Not feeling good enough
When I first started my Instagram I didn’t intend on putting myself in my pictures. It was going to be more about travel images and maybe a glimpse of me, but not really seeing ‘all of me.’ I was feeling too self conscious to be in front of the camera and was afraid no one would like the image with me in it, which is ridiculous in itself.
As a makeup artist I was used to taking ‘makeup selfies.’ Selfies where I’d be posed and hold my phone or camera at a certain angle to look flattering. The reality of that is I was controlling how I looked and what my followers saw.
Taking travel images is a different ball game altogether. I’d like to think my travel images are more ‘caught in the moment’ shots, which Max takes the vast majority of. So, unless I’m holding my stomach in, about to pass out and posed at my most ‘flattering angles’ 24/7 I’m probably not going to look good. Or at least, I don’t think I do. This is usually when I beat myself up over the fact I don’t look as nice as other bloggers do in their photos.
Stop comparing yourself to others
I’d be a hypocrite if I said I was going to stop doing this in the near future. One minute I’m comparing myself to travel women who are roughly a size 6-8 then, the next minute I’m comparing myself to the likes of Kim Kardashian, J- Lo and Beyonce. Naturally, I have curves. I’ve always been a size 10 on the top then a 12 on the bottom. I would say I was quite comfortable in my skin until this past year where I’ve put on weight and am now a size 12-14. I’m going to be completely honest here and tell you that I didn’t notice my weight gain and was pretty much in-denial about it. There were a few causes of my weight gain- coming off medication, feeling too insecure to go to the gym and being too lazy. Oh! And also stuffing my face at Christmas. It wasn’t until my recent trip to Rome that I realised how much weight I’d actually gained. Like, I actually cried looking at some of my Rome photos Max had taken whilst caught off guard. Remember what I mentioned earlier about un-flattering angles? Yeah, I looked very… Un-flattering.
I want to look like…
After Rome I said to myself I’m going to lose this weight and feel body confident again. I’m going travelling this year and there is no way in hell I’m not going to feel comfortable in a bikini. So, I started looking for inspiration- photos of women I aspired to look like. Part of me wanted to look like the travel bloggers on instagram with their effortless beauty and then the other part of me wanted to look like Kim K etc with their killer curves. I mention Kim K as I read an article recently stating she had 39inch hips and I was like ‘SO DO I!! YES!” But, then I often see people bash her for her figure, will they say the same about me? People also bash size 6-8 girls for being ‘too skinny’. Then I thought, why can’t I just be ME! Why can’t all women feel comfortable in their own skin without someone having something to say about it?!
No size is the ideal size
Sure, in our personal opinion we all have our ideal size. However, society need to stop pressuring women into thinking certain shapes and sizes are the ‘ideal’ figure. I mean, in an ideal world we’d all be happy with how we looked but we aren’t. We all have different bodies and measurements. No one has the perfect body. We all have our own flaws, we just need to own them. Don’t let someone’s opinion affect you. Don’t fret if you don’t get many likes on Instagram or Facebook. You don’t need to be liked or accepted by everyone. We need to learn to love our bodies and stop letting societies ideologies make us feel like we’re unworthy.
Lets empower each other
To make a difference we need to pick each other up. If you think someone looks amazing in their picture then comment and tell them. Like their outfit? Tell them! Obsessed with their figure? Tell them! It could make someone’s day and not only that, it’ll make your day just by being kind. You never know what it may have taken someone to post that ‘bikini pic’ or their ‘progress photo’. So lets stop with the negativity surrounding body image and start lifting each other up. Lets strive to love each other and most importantly love YOU. Because there is only ONE you and you need to own that shit!
Spreading love and positive vibes <3